“The Loser” is always sorry the next day and begins the mean-then-sweet cycle all over again.
Getting away from physical abusers often requires the assistance of family, law enforcement agencies, or local abuse agencies.
And so, the therapist may interpret the patient’s amorous overtures as arising from the “transference”—that powerful, unconscious process by which feelings and attitudes toward someone in our past are “transferred” to a person in the present.
For example, a young female patient might express “love” for her older, male therapist because she is unconsciously transferring feelings she once had toward her father.
If you are involved in a relationship with one of these versions, you may require professional and legal assistance to save yourself.
Physical abusers begin the relationship with physical moving — shoving, pushing, forcing, etc.
This group of people, who I believed lived in London art squats, wanted me to suffer excruciating, lifelong physical pain in prison.”, which may help you to identify and highlight experiences of concern within your relationship.There are more severe if not dangerous versions of “The Loser” that have been identified over the years.If you’re dating a ‘loser’, you may recognize in your partner some of these characteristics described by Consulting Clinical Psychologist Joseph M. This article continues with a note on dangerous versions of the ‘loser’ and offers guidelines for detachment.Also see the new “Relationship Quiz: True Love or True Loser?One day in the course of treating a young woman with schizophrenia, the patient—whom I’ll call “Laura”—asked me if I would like to take her out on a date. I had to think carefully about my answer, as I struggled with my conflicting emotions.