I've had crushes on men of all races ranging from the superfine singer Maxwell to the hotness that is Ryan Gosling.My first crush was in the first grade on a Vietnamese kid named Vin.Black people are standing up and demanding to be seen, and to matter, in ways I have read about in history books, but have never experienced in my lifetime.Whether we are talking about #themovementforblacklives or #sayhername, as a community we are requiring that our full humanity not only be recognized, but that safe spaces be created for the expression of that full humanity—whether good, bad, or ugly.So, if you meet an African man who has a secure job, you know that it is the result of his hard work. They come from a country where poverty and civil wars are prevalent.So, they have a more balanced perspective about life.He was the fastest runner in our class and popular, and I could care less that we weren't the same race.One day, Vin was at the water fountain and I waited for him.
He had a beard, blue eyes, Caucasian in its fullest form. Eric said that he dated outside his race before so that eased my fear about the assumptions he may have had about black women.His schoolmate then added that the only girls Richard finds attractive have long blonde hair and blue eyes. In that case, I was not shocked that Richard did not find any black girls “attractive” because I too have never met a black girl with natural long blonde hair and blue eyes.That same evening, Richard laughed heartily as he told the joke that black women died on the Titanic because they refused to get on emergency rafts. Finding someone who will love you despite your physical \"flaws,\" idiosyncrasies and emotional wounds is hard enough without imposing limitations based on arbitrary race categories!That wonderful time of year had come and I decided to host the festivities.Before you date an African man, you should know about them so that you can enter into a healthy relationship. They come from a society where women don’t have the same rights as men, but women are greatly cared for.