You see, until the age of eighteen, I wasn’t allowed to date. Whether I thought that rule was fair or child abuse, it was the rule.
If I wanted to date, I had to do it secretly and within the confines of an eight-minute bus ride to and from school each day, which wasn’t too effective.
But for the most part, my love stories have taken a turn for the worse. So what do we do when our hope has been overtaken by heartache?
I’ve been left standing confused and alone (in the rain… When this “opportune time” we hear about feels more like a train that forgot to stop at our station?
And also, note, this is not an attack on all Christian women; it’s just the perception of these men. [Before going any further, I would like to apologize to the men.
In my previous article, my intention was to share what seemed to be taking place more frequently in the church.
I received countless emails, social media post and instant messages regarding this topic.Not at her, but at the under-inspiring, over-articulated rhetoric that women — particularly black women — should be passive in the search for love.And even as we nullify our power, we should also work to be as close to perfect to qualify as marriage material. I am one in a nation of girls raised up in the black church, polished from infancy to serve the Lord with minimal questions asked.Before I met my boyfriend, you would have needed to pay a modest-to-large sum of money to get me to even set foot inside a church. Blame it on everything except my childhood exposure to Catholicism.And yet, here I am — a future minister's lady friend. As it turns out, it's actually pretty great dating a future minister. Yes, by the time he graduates, he'll be a card-carrying member of the clergy.